Showing posts with label change. Show all posts
Showing posts with label change. Show all posts

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Refresher Driving Course And Happier Times At Hura

Back in the States, when it was time to renew our car insurance we received once, among the other official papers, an offer to take defensive driving-- a refresher course.  In return we were guaranteed a sizable discount on our payments. It sounded like a very good deal and we decided to attend. We were not the only ones, there were at least forty other people  in the room and they all came for the same reason. The course was informative and entertaining and at its end we got the necessary document  for the insurance.
That was the way things were done in the US, incentives are often used in order to bring about change. But things are different here in Israel. I was reminded of this course  yesterday, when I heard an interview on Hakol Dibourim (It’s All Talk). Adi Meiri spoke with a  driving instructor who teaches defensive driving to those who are required to take a refresher course after five years on the road. The instructor said that even experienced drivers are not aware of all the new regulations, and suggested a refresher course every 15 years.
The instructor was right. There are, of course the mandatory defensive driving courses for  drivers who committed traffic violations.
Please keep reading in the Times Of Israel

Monday, January 19, 2015

Don’t Listen To the Naysayers, Bring About Change


I never knew it had a name, but the other day I saw on American television a commercial for a high speed internet. In order to persuade the viewers to purchase that product, the narrator pleaded “don’t listen to the naysayer.”  This is how I first discovered that, in the US, naysaying is a familiar and toxic type of behavior which merits a warning
The naysayer, according to the dictionary, is a person who says something will not work or is not possible: a person who denies, refuses, or opposes something. From my experience, naysaying is a form of avoidance, the naysayer is not the brave Dutch boy who put his finger in the dike to save his country, but is the one to always find a reason why not to act.
We meet the naysayers in all walks of life. Within the family or among our friends they are the chronic joy killers who spoil enjoyable gatherings with their negativity. At work they are especially disruptive team members and could sabotage a meeting by explaining in great details why the ideas presented are never going to work.
I don’t mean to suggest that we have to agree about everything, quite the contrary, it is important to argue, and to listen to different points of view. Nowadays we know that yea-saying is as harmful as naysaying. Moreover, the latter should not be confused with healthy skepticism and constructive criticism, which are important and necessary qualities for improvement. But I believe that chronic nay-saying (like yea-saying) is often caused by fear and could lead to lethargy and ultimately to  stagnation and paralysis.
n recent years our leaders have found plenty of reasons why not to act and as a result our society became lethargic and stagnated. Many Israelis lost hope and believe that nothing will ever change. This despair caused, for example, a decrease in voter turnout in the last election.
In 2011, for a short time, the Israeli social justice protests brought about hope and energy. Many believed that a change was possible. The motto of the protests, which addressed issues of social order and power structure in Israel, was “the people demand social justice!”
Sadly social justice was not achieved and in 2015 Israelis are more disillusioned than they had been before the protests.
But new hope comes from unexpected directions, and the activities of
But new hope comes from unexpected directions, and the activities of groups like  Women Wage Peace, for example, bring about new surge of energy. From the first train ride from Tel Aviv to Sderot, back in November, the members of that group have continually been on the move all over Israel to promote its cause. Although the focus of the group is political, rather than economic or social, the rationale is that peace will bring about positive change in the living conditions of the two peoples, the Israeli and the Palestinians, and naturally it would translate to social and economic justice.
Keeping up the energy is a must, and in order to gain any meaningful achievements on election day, on March 17th, and thereafter, we constantly need to focus on all the reasons why we must act now. We have no more time to waste, so please “don’t listen to the naysayer,” bring about change.

http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/dont-listen-to-the-naysayers-bring-about-change/

Friday, September 26, 2014

The Group Of Religious Feminists With No Sense Of Humor And The Desert Island

For many Jewish people Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are truly High Holidays, for me they mark yet another year in which “I won't  set a foot in a synagogue.” This phrase is taken from a famous Jewish fable/ Joke for the High Holidays...
“A Jewish sailor was shipwrecked on a desert island and the first thing he did was build two synagogues....
Years later when he was rescued people were bewildered and asked him: Why he built two synagogues... to which he replied.
"Oh that other one... I won’t set a foot there”!*
Sadly this joke reflects a less than funny reality.
When we lived in small university towns in the Midwest we always went to Shul on the High Holidays. We are not religious but being outside Israel we wanted to celebrate the holidays with other Jewish people.

Please keep on reading in The Times Of Israel

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Between Victoria and Gatwick Or The Bearer Of Good News



As students we never had enough money, so when we were accepted to graduate school at  the University of Toronto, getting there from Israel was a challenge. We looked for a cheap flight and were lucky: a year earlier in 1977, the British enterpreneur Freddy Laker started the first low-cost, "no frill" airline, operating low-fare scheduled services between London Gatwick Airport and New York's John F. Kennedy Airport.

The option of booking tickets in advance did not exist, and in order to board a flight one had to line up for a ticket in one of the two Laker Airways centers --in Victoria Station and at Gatwick Airport.  We arrived at Victoria with our suitcases; the line for tickets was very long and we were told that we might be able to catch a flight in two days time. Efficiently people got organized into groups and each one had a coordinator who was in charge of communicating with the airline.  Since there so many people waiting, some  groups camped around the station in an orderly fashion.

My husband Tzvi and I didn’t look forward to the possibility of spending two days camping in the street. We asked our coordinator if he knew anything about the line at the other ticket center at  Gatwick Airport. He didn't, but said that he assumed that it was the same thing. We decided to check for ourselves; Tzvi took a  train to Gatwick and I stayed with the suitcases in Victoria. It took several hours but then he came back bearing good news: the line in Gatwick was short, there was a spacious waiting area,  and we could fly to NY that same night.

We were delighted and anxious to share this piece of good news with the rest of the. We were convinced that many people would choose to take the train to Gatwick. We were wrong, no one did, the two of us left and everyone else stayed behind.

The real reason why no one joined us remains a mystery, I still cannot understand why people preferred to remain outside the station in the heat and pollution of London in August.

But I could specualte, perhaps they didn’t believe us, most of them were Americans and we were strangers and spoke with a foreign accent. The sociologist Georg Simmel defines  "‘stranger’ as a person who comes today and stays tomorrow, whose position in a group is determined, essentially, by the fact that he has not belonged to it from the beginning, that he imports qualities into it which do not and cannot stem from the group itself."  Thus even though we were part of a group, we were viewed with suspicion.

Another reason could be that they felt comfortable and safe within their group and didn’t want to leave; it could be that no one wanted to be the first to go so they all stayed with their group.

Sometimes when I encounter people who are reluctant to do the one thing that, I believe, will get them out of a difficult spot, like leaving an abusive relationship, or quitting a job which they hate, I think of the Victoria vs Gatwick  story and reminded once more that what seems clear to me could be far from obvious to someone else.

PS. About Freddy Laker and Laker Airways.  http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk/2283244.stm


Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Do We Indulge Or spoil Our Children? It Depends On The Language


Yesterday  a group of us sat around the table for Shabbat dinner. We didn't discuss world peace or the chance to finally bring it to the Middle East. The most burning issue was the high price of housing, which makes life in Israel hard, especially for young people.

This is not a new problem, when we were young my husband and I could not afford to  buy an apartment since, unlike the US,  it was not possible to put  only 10% or 20 % down payment and to borrow the rest from the bank.  We had to come up with most of the money upfront, so we rented.

The rule of thumb in rent, we were told, is that payment should not exceed one third of the monthly income: we were lucky to be able to keep it at that level. However,

Please keep on reading in the Times of Israel

http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/do-we-indulge-or-spoil-our-children-it-depends-on-the-language/